Thursday, 21 February 2013 7:52 a.m.
"Hey!!! Just alittle advise from someone who actively tired for 4 years:) For the first year I charted everything, looking back now it was probably the thing the drove me the craziest!!! If anything I would have got both mine and my partners fertility checked earlier, the longer you wait, the harder you try, the more painful and hard it gets!!! We started trying to conceive when we were both 25, and thought everything would run smoothly, we were both heathly, young, fit, so why was there a problem!! A couple of years later we found my partner had bad sperm:( And was told he was infertile, something we thought we would never hear:( After been put on the waiting list for IVF, our minds finally starting focusing on others things as we had a set date of when we were to be trying to conceive, funnily enough I fell pregnant a few months later, I always thought it was a load of s#@t, when people said "if you take your mind off it and focus on others things it will happen", proves it kind of works, After trying for 4 years and been told we have a high chance of never having children, I am now the happiest and proud mummy of a beautiful baby girl!! Hang in there sweets and dont let trying to conceive consume you!! My heart broke further and further every month, I lost alot of friends and family, because I couldnt deal with others having babies!! My advise is enjoy life!! Make the most of everyday, I have been where you are and its hard to think of anything else and believe me it was so worth the wait, but it is a painful journey when it just doesnt happen:( Seek medical advise early and stay positive, dont let it overwhelm you!!! Goodluck"
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