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He has told me that if I keep it he wants nothing to do with it which is fine because we are only young and this is only a new relationship what I need to know is how to go about leaving. I dont want to hurt him hes really lovely he just doesn't want kids? 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And Carina it's great that you're not bitter that he's not ready for kids yet. Absolutely stand your ground, if he wants to come along for the ride great but if not, it's HIS choice. You're not forcing him to be involved and you're not forcing him not to. You can only make decisions for yourself (and your child). 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Some sugar always helps too. Then just don't bring the subject up for a while, let him process whats happening. He may well have a change of heart if he's not pressured. Don't get angry, it'll just make him angry too. Be firm in your decision and if all else fails, do it alone. <br />My partner always said he didn't want any more kids, right from when we met. It didn't worry me too much as he has 2 and I have one already, but then I got pregnant (after drinking grapefruit juice while on the pill) and I also don't believe abortion is an option for me. He wanted me to have an abortion, I just said no and left it at that. He has now come around to the idea and it's all going to be fine. So no pressure, a definate no to abortion and some sugar is the way to go about it I think. 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