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<!-- MAIN //--> <div id="main"> <div id="exploreSite"> <p><a href="#show-site" id="toggle-site" class="action-exploreSite">explore site</a></p> </div> <p id="breadcrumb"> <a href='http://www.treasures.co.nz/'>Home</a> <span>»</span> <a href='http://www.treasures.co.nz/Explore-your-stage/'>your stage</a> <span>»</span> <a href='http://www.treasures.co.nz/Explore-your-stage/toddler-advice/'>Toddler</a> <span>»</span> <a href='http://www.treasures.co.nz/Explore-your-stage/Articlestory-category/?categoryId=73'>Things you need</a> <span>»</span></p> <h1 id="printtitle">Sleep problem</h1> <div id="content"> <div class="box w075"> <div class="article-left fL" style="width: 444px;"> <h2 class="headline"> Hi, First i have to introduce my self.My name is shehla house hold mom now.I have two sons.I need help to all of you. </h2> <div> <div class="image"> </div> </div> <div class="cB"></div> <p>Hello. I need some help about my three and half year old son. 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Because he was very much into spiderman, everything in his room was spiderman. The first night i laid next to him and read him 3 books. After the 3rd book i kissed him goodnight, lefted the hallway light on and i praised him that he was such a good boy lying in his bed, how hes such a big boy now that he has his big boys room. This took me a good week and half. <br /> <br />Is your son toilet traininng at the moment because if he is sometimes the transition doesn't work. <br /> <br />Keep in mind that every child is different. <br /> <br />Also is there a possibility that dad could support you with this transition by reading to him at night before going to bed while you get up for your 6 month old? <br /> <br />Once you have started a routine make sure you stick with it :) children need consistancy. <br /> <br />Hope this helped abit </p> <p class="fR"> </p> </div> <div class="side"> <div id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl0_ucAvatar_pnlContainer" class="profile type-medium"> <div id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl0_ucAvatar_pnlContent" class="details stage-pregnant kids-2 location-new_zealand offline "> <a class="avatar"> <img id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl0_ucAvatar_imgAvatar" src="/EPiServerCommunity/Modules/ImageGallery/Thumbnails/36/283736/8282_18913.jpg" style="border-width:0px;" /> </a> <a id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl0_ucAvatar_hlUserName" class="username" onclick="changeTopLocation('http://www.treasures.co.nz/Community/People/Public-Profile/?userId=70860&noiframe=1');return false;">shelleypaki</a> <span class="extra"></span> <ul> <li class="status">offline</li> <li>0 stories</li> <li>0 recommendation</li> </ul> <em></em> <dl> <dt class="stage">Stage:</dt> <dd>Pregnant</dd> <dt class="location">Location:</dt> <dd>Auckland</dd> </dl> <span class="summary"><span>Pregnant, <br />from</span> Auckland</span> <p><a id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl0_ucAvatar_hlViewProfile" class="more" onclick="changeTopLocation('http://www.treasures.co.nz/Community/People/Public-Profile/?userId=70860&noiframe=1');return false;">View profile</a></p> <div class="gfx-b"></div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </li> <li> <div class="box"> <div class="content"> <p class="date">Saturday, 13 March 2010 9:24 p.m.</p> <div class="action"> <div id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucCommentRating_UpdatePanel1"> <div class="ratingBox"> <div class="ratingText"></div> <div style="float:right"> <div id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucCommentRating_ratEntry" class="ratingContainer"> <input type="hidden" name="ctl00$FullContent$Main$PageContent$ucComments$lvComments$ctrl1$ucCommentRating$ratEntry_RatingExtender_ClientState" id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_RatingExtender_ClientState" value="0" /><a href="javascript:void(0)" id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_A" title="0" style="text-decoration:none"><span id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_Star_1" class="ratingStar emptyRatingStar" style="float:left;"> </span><span id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_Star_2" class="ratingStar emptyRatingStar" style="float:left;"> </span><span id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_Star_3" class="ratingStar emptyRatingStar" style="float:left;"> </span><span id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_Star_4" class="ratingStar emptyRatingStar" style="float:left;"> </span><span id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_Star_5" class="ratingStar emptyRatingStar" style="float:left;"> </span></a> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <p class="nM"> I'm thinking about moving my girl into a big bed shortly and I was told this advice is fool proof! When you put him to bed, say goodnight and do all the things you normally do, then go out the door, before he's even thought about getting up you go back in and make a big fuss of the fact that he's still in bed, "What a good boy! You're still lying quietly in your bed! Well done!" type then. Then repeat but leaving longer times. A friend tried this with her kids and said it's painful going in there a hundred times but it only took her kids around 3 days to stay in bed by themselves. Also does your son have a day sleep? If he is maybe that's whats making him get up? <br />If he's waking during the night you might have to invest in a chair and sit with him til he falls asleep, tell him "I will stay with you but you have to sleep in your own bed". This seems to work on super nanny! <br />Also maybe you could explain to your husband that the housework can wait for a couple of days until you have the sleep thing sorted! </p> <p class="fR"> </p> </div> <div class="side"> <div id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucAvatar_pnlContainer" class="profile type-medium"> <div id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucAvatar_pnlContent" class="details stage-baby kids-2 location-new_zealand offline "> <a class="avatar"> <img id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucAvatar_imgAvatar" src="/EPiServerCommunity/Modules/ImageGallery/Thumbnails/44/82244/3635_8382.jpg" style="border-width:0px;" /> </a> <a id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucAvatar_hlUserName" class="username" onclick="changeTopLocation('http://www.treasures.co.nz/Community/People/Public-Profile/?userId=13293&noiframe=1');return false;">Stasia+Livi</a> <span class="extra"></span> <ul> <li class="status">offline</li> <li>1 stories</li> <li>0 recommendation</li> </ul> <em> </em> <dl> <dt class="stage">Stage:</dt> <dd>Baby</dd> <dt class="kids">Kids:</dt> <dd> Olivia, 5 years<br />Dylan, 3 years, 1 month </dd> <dt class="location">Location:</dt> <dd>Levin</dd> </dl> <span class="summary"><span>Baby, <br />from</span> Levin</span> <p><a id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl1_ucAvatar_hlViewProfile" class="more" onclick="changeTopLocation('http://www.treasures.co.nz/Community/People/Public-Profile/?userId=13293&noiframe=1');return false;">View profile</a></p> <div class="gfx-b"></div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </li> <li> <div class="box"> <div class="content"> <p class="date">Friday, 12 March 2010 8:24 a.m.</p> <div class="action"> <div id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl2_ucCommentRating_UpdatePanel1"> <div class="ratingBox"> <div class="ratingText"></div> <div style="float:right"> <div id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl2_ucCommentRating_ratEntry" class="ratingContainer"> <input type="hidden" name="ctl00$FullContent$Main$PageContent$ucComments$lvComments$ctrl2$ucCommentRating$ratEntry_RatingExtender_ClientState" id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl2_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_RatingExtender_ClientState" value="0" /><a href="javascript:void(0)" id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl2_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_A" title="0" style="text-decoration:none"><span id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl2_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_Star_1" class="ratingStar emptyRatingStar" style="float:left;"> </span><span id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl2_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_Star_2" class="ratingStar emptyRatingStar" style="float:left;"> </span><span id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl2_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_Star_3" class="ratingStar emptyRatingStar" style="float:left;"> </span><span id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl2_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_Star_4" class="ratingStar emptyRatingStar" style="float:left;"> </span><span id="ctl00_FullContent_Main_PageContent_ucComments_lvComments_ctrl2_ucCommentRating_ratEntry_Star_5" class="ratingStar emptyRatingStar" style="float:left;"> </span></a> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <p class="nM"> When we were trying to get our son into sleeping in his own bed and room, we found it hard for the first little bit. We tried to make his room as comfy and as friendly for him, we also put a night light in his bedroom for his own comfort - as he did not like the dark or being in there alone.. we also gave him treats or a toy for the first week or so while training him to sleep alone, so if he slept a whole night in his room we took him out and he got to choose something. You could make bed time relaxing for him, by reading to him while lying on his bed, giving him something to cuddle during the night - tell him that during the night the teddy will cuddle him and look after him. If he gets out of his bed during the night - tell him the first time back to bed and put him back in there, then just tell him bedtime, and keep taking him back to his bed.. <br />I can understand you are tired i also have a 5 month old who wakes during the night - but i am luckly enough that my son now sleeps through the night. i hope something works for you ..... 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