I haven't met my Midwife yet!

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Last 2 pregnancies I an Obstetrician, but this time we can''t afford it so going with a Midwife.  I was recommended one in West Auckland, but I am now 21 weeks and have yet to meet her!  Every appointment she has either been sick, at a delivery or on leave, so I've met with her 'backup' or the office lady (who is also a Midwife but doesn't do deliveries).   I'm a bit worried that if I don't like her it's now too late to change!  Also, around my delivery date she is due to go on leave and is being covered by some other midwife (not the backup I've already met, but someone else!). 
 
Has anyone changed Midwives half way through their pregnancy?  I feel like I'm being mucked around by this lady!!

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Wednesday, September 21, 2011 9:44 PM

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  • Thursday, September 29, 2011 12:27 AM

    Because you are high risk you should have an OB and your doctor should of referred you to one between 12 to 18 weeks into your pregnancy. Your MW is not doing a very good job you should of met herpersonally around 12 weeks into your pregnancy.

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  • Monday, September 26, 2011 12:42 AM

    if you are refered then OB is free.
    shouldnt you have meet your mw at the booking appt?
     

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  • Sunday, September 25, 2011 12:34 PM

    Oh dear. I had that with my first midwife with my son. When I finally did meet it her it was so she could tell me she was going back on the wards and I would have to find a new midwife. Lovely....
    You can change at any time - the trick can be finding someone to change to. I ended up with the community midwives at Waitakere hospital who were lovely. Saw the same midwife both before and after the birth, and just had the hospital midwives for the birth itself.
    You will only get to see an OB without paying in Auckland if you have some kind of complication with your pregnancy. I had shared care with an obstetrician both times - first was due to high blood pressure, second time was that and twins.

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  • Sunday, September 25, 2011 10:10 AM

    That sux you have to pay for an OB in auck
    In timaru we dont have to pay and have a shared care between hospital based MW/OB
    or can choose independant MW up the main street, if you want to just see one person
    I would definately change MW or try get an OB somehow. Can you get a referral thru your GP?
    Duno thats how it works here, go to GP confirm preg and then she sends info to OB who then sends you out scan dates

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  • Thursday, September 22, 2011 7:26 AM

    I changed mine at 31 weeks as my original midwife decided she didn't want to do a homebirth afterall. I've only met her twice. If you're thinking you want to change then start looking now, it's not too late.

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  • Thursday, September 22, 2011 2:41 AM

    i had to change mine at 34 weeks which was okay coz it was when i started weekly checks so it gave me a chance to get to know her. i reckon you should get a new one asap!

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  • Wednesday, September 21, 2011 11:43 PM

    who is your midwife?
     

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  • Wednesday, September 21, 2011 11:07 PM

    I changed at 36 weeks and the two sessions I saw my new MW before birth, I allready felt like I knew Her. I was so lucky. My old MW I was not happy with. Some people just shouldn't be MWs. She was so unpersonal I felt like I was going to a doctor apt with a doc I didn't know and She never answered any of my questions. I learnt all I knew from books.
    If you don't like your Midwife. CHANGE! A good one would have made the effort to meet with you at other times.
    I looked up all the local MWs in the phone book and internet and called them all before one fianlly got back to be and said yes! THe MWs who were booked still wanted to help and gave me numbers of other MWs
    Goodluck to you. Ask yourself this like I did, Do you want someone you barely know or don't like being the main person who delivers your baby?

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  • Wednesday, September 21, 2011 10:05 PM

    If you've had all your appointments with the backup, could she take over as your midwife?  I wouldn't be happy at all if I hadn't met my midwife by halfway through my pregnancy!  Personally, I would definitely be looking around, especially if she's likely to not even be there for the birth.

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